Where do you find Strength?

For as long as I can remember, my favorite scripture has been Philippians 4:13

I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.

It was kind of a mantra in the depths of my struggle with infertility. And continues to comfort me in the foster care circus.

But I really draw strength from music – primarily Christian music, as it turns out. I collect songs that speak to me. I just discovered a new one last night – it’s actually about the singers then-unborn child who had been diagnosed with a very serious heart defect. But it describes foster parenting exactly. As one fellow foster parent put it “over and over and over…………………..”

And then there’s this story about how a carrot, an egg and a coffee bean face the same adversity – boiling water – but each reacted differently.

  • The carrot went in strong, hard and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. 
  • The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior. But, after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. 
  • The ground coffee bean was unique, however. After it was in the boiling water, it had changed the water.
The next two were among a few that were on near-constant replay while I was struggling with infertility, and I’ve found they continue to give me strength through the trials of foster care.

When I was in the thick of the infertility fight, I always saw Infertility as The Giant in this song. I recently listened to it again with the additional “lens” of foster parenting. Oddly enough, Infertility is still The Giant. Foster Parenting is the Waves.

What gives your strength? Where do you turn when one more day just seems too much to ask? Let me know in the comments. 


  1. Anita Levesque

    Great article. Love your site and the Headline. Thanks for sharing. Anita

  2. dinadove

    I loved this post. I so feel for you in your longing for a baby. And so appreciate the great love it takes for all children to become a foster parent.


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