A Good Day for the Traveling Circus! (Updates)

Squish: TPR disposition hearing today. No surprises, and we’re one step closer to Forever Day. Judge Chinchilla ruled that all parental rights are terminated. The CLS attorney has 10 days to submit the order; 31 days after the order is signed, Squish will be freed for adoption.

We are still waiting on the ICPC on his paternal grandma. Everyone seems to be very surprised that MA is moving so slowly. The CM sent an update request through official channels, but has yet to hear anything.

Squirm: I’m not sure how or why, but I haven’t posted about the recent mini-roller coaster we’ve been riding with Squirm’s case. I mentioned previously that his paternal grandmother had apparently located an army of “SEVERAL close Relatives who would like to get [Squirm] so that he may Remain in Our Family.” Well, two of those relatives have come forward in the last 6 weeks. The first call came 6 weeks ago from a great-aunt who was supposed to call the CS back with names, birth dates and socials for all household members. She never called back and didn’t return the CS’s call a couple of weeks later. I never really worried much about her – I just didn’t feel like she was a threat to us – just an irritation.
But then, last Monday, I spoke with the CS and learned that an out-of-state cousin had come forward – she hadn’t known that Squirm was in foster care, but was willing to do anything necessary to get him. The cousin seemed really nice, gave the CS all the necessary information, and they made arrangements to speak again this week. I don’t know why, but this one freaked me out – it could have been timing, it could have been that the CS thought the woman was very nice… I don’t know, but this one had me worried. Since we are SOOO close to the TPR trial, which starts 11/8, the CS wanted to speak with her supervisor before moving forward with the ICPC.
So…. hurrah! I spoke with the CS today – because these people have come forward so late in the game, and ICPCs take SOOO long, CPC will not be moving forward with any homestudies for the great-aunt, the cousin, or any family members that come forward now!!! Granted, the bio-dad can still have his attorney file a motion for change of placement. But considering that there’s almost no chance that he could get a court date prior to the TPR trial… by the time the motion could be heard, he wouldn’t have any rights anyway!!!
Which means… really the only thing between us and Squirm’s Forever Day is the previous foster mom – and I’m really confident that’s she’s not a threat. Not only has he been with us longer than she had him (over 3 months longer by the time he’s freed for adoption), but they took him away from her for a reason…..
So, yeah. Today was a good day!!
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  1. Carrie

    Glad you got good news! Do you mean Massachusetts as far as your ICPC? We had an ICPC case that went to Massachusetts and it took 12 months 🙁 I really hope that is not the case for you!!

    1. Duck Mommy

      Yes, it is Massachusetts. Holy cow!!! I really hope we don’t have to hold him up that long! That’s terrible!!

    2. Duck Mommy

      We finally got an update from MA. They are just waiting on background check (fingerprints done last week), and some kind of waiver. Hopefully won’t be much longer.

  2. Carrie

    It WAS terrible! I am sure that it really depends on the worker, though, and how motivated they are. It may not have been MA at all that was the problem (although a MA worker did get fired during the process and they had to start over) It was our first case and I really didn’t know what was going on-otherwise maybe I would have been able to advocate better.

    1. Jamie Nestrick

      Do you have any suggestions for anything I can do on my end to “encourage” the process? I’m not sure how motivated the CM on this end is, either, TBH. She’s shocked that it’s taking so long. but I know she’s got other cases to worry about. Squish’s case should get turned over to an adoption worker soon, maybe they’ll be able to move the process along.

      Thanks for reading, and I would definitely appreciate any pointers you have!

  3. Carrie

    Well, if everything has been done on your state’s end, I don’t know if there is really anything that you can do-just keep checking with the CM to see if she knows what the next step is-basically being a little squeaky! My worker right now will not do anything unless I ask her about it. Then she says, “Oh man (or the equivalent)! And looks into it” 🙁

    1. Duck Mommy

      I hate when they’re like that! We did find out today that the homestudy is done, pending the results of the background check – fingerprints were done last week, and that should be back any time. And then they’re just waiting on some waiver.

  4. Carrie

    That’s good news.


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