In Everything Give Thanks

Thankfulness in Adoption: In everything give thanks“In everything give thanks. For this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” ~1 Thessalonians 5:18

One of the things that I don’t blog about very often is infertility. I am infertile. SuperDad and I tried 2 years of infertility treatments before becoming foster parents. I’m certainly not ashamed of it – I’ve been known to inform unsuspecting, intrusive strangers, “These are my real kids. I don’t have biological children because I’m barren. Thanks for asking.”

The reason I don’t talk about infertility much is that I am no longer battling it. I am still infertile. That’s not going to change. What’s changed is that not only am I at peace with my infertility, I’ve come to a place where I’m thankful to be infertile. No, that’s not a typo.

First, let me say that I would never suggest to a woman or couple battling infertility that adoption would solve all their problems. That is a cold, insensitive, and hurtful suggestion, and I would never presume that my response to infertility should be everyone’s.

But let me explain what I mean (in no particular order)


Wendy’s Wonderful Kids

This is a sponsored post written by me on behalf of Wendy’s for IZEA. All opinions are 100% mine.

November is National Adoption Month.

While my Facebook feed has been deluged over the last few days with outrage – half the internet is outraged about a red cup, and the other half is outraged about the outrage – Wendy’s is proudly sending a powerful message with their cups.

Wendy's Wonderful Kids - Cause Cups

As you read this, there are over 100,000 children in foster care awaiting adoption in the US.

More than 22,000 aged out of foster care last year without finding a forever family.

Another 20,000+ will age out this year.

And next year.

And the year after that.

Just sit with that a minute. (more…)

What I’m Most Thankful for This November

Obviously I’m thankful for SuperDad and my boys and my (new) church and my friends and my mentor and my job… and my health…

But what I’m MOST THANKFUL for? That my God knows better than me. That He loves me enough to ignore me. That He is benevolent enough and wise enough to disregard what I think and show me His will for my life – in all it’s magnificent abundant glory.

Yep, as clichéd as it is, I am most thankful this November for Unanswered Prayers.

The last few days I have been working on our Adoption Applications for Squirm and Squish. (Don’t get excited, this is just the next step in the process. We are still a long way from calling The Twins permanent members of the family.) Part of this step is another homestudy – this one for adoption, as opposed to foster care. I really can’t see the difference between the two, we have to answer almost the exact same questions we answered for our foster care homestudy. But I’m told it’s all required to adopt, so here we go again into the paperwork rabbit hole. In there interest of efficiency (and consistency, tbh), I tracked down my original licensure packet to see how we answered the in-depth background questions the first time. I had completely forgotten some of the questions asked.

Imagine that today is the day you are going to meet the child or children who will be placed in your home. Please describe this child: age, sex, personality, appearance, family background, siblings, etc.” I couldn’t help but laugh when I read our responses: