Evidently, she followed up by calling the CM’s supervisor today.
- just showed up out of nowhere last month wanting visitation & was granted 1 supervised hour/week
- doesn’t want to deal with orientation at the visitation facility
- keeps trying to convince SuperDad & I to
- either agree to supervise her visits so she doesn’t have to deal with the visitation facility,
- or just “let me know when you’re going to be at McDonald’s or something – I’ve got a car, I can meet you there, and that awful [CM] doesn’t have to know“
- has something so bad in her background that CPC won’t even do a homestudy
Google “questions about foster parenting” and you’ll get lots of official pages from child welfare agencies, state governments and foster/adopt charities (and even a quiz about whether you’re ready to be a foster or adoptive parent), but I haven’t found any “FAQs” that answer the questions that people ask foster parents everyday.
So I’m starting my own! (Yay!) And you’re going to help! (I hope)
So we’ll start with a tricky one that SuperDad and I hear almost daily. It may seem simple, but it’s actually pretty complicated and every foster parent has a different long version. Here’s my short version:
Q: How can you do it?
AA (Alternate Answer): If not me, who?
“Wow, I love your mini van.”
“Get your sword & hit him back.”
“Bend over. Let me sniff your butt.”
Every parent (and mommy blog) talks about the things we say as parents that we never thought we would – but that now make perfect sense.
But the world of foster parenting introduces a whole new dimension of ridiculous. I’ve decided to start compiling the gems I hear/read in foster parent groups, court hearings, team meetings, etc.
If birth mom shows up for a meth hair test with freshly bleached hair – will that affect the results? What if she is clean-shaven *everywhere* else?
I know you’ve got some doozies to share. Give ’em to me in the comments!
Lord, you know the life you have planned for my ducklings. Your word says its to be a good life. If they will not have a good life with their birth parents, please leave them with me. But if it will be good, please give me the grace, wisdom and strength to get out of the way. If the birth parents are doing or hiding anything that should change the outcome, please allow that to be revealed sooner, rather than later.