There is an on-going controversy debate discussion in foster-care adoption circles on changing a child’s name at adoption –Should the adoptive parent:
Change only the last name?
Change the last and middle names, but leave the first name alone?
Change all the names?
Keep first and middle birth names as double middle name?
Rearrange first, middle, last and new names to create an obscure anagram?
Should the child be given a choice?
At what should the child get input?
At what age should child make the decision –
Should it be a guided decision?
Carte blanche? ….
Blah, blah, blah….
I don’t want to talk about the rights and wrongs of changing names. Not today. Maybe not ever.
We changed Squish’s name when we adopted him. We kept his first birth name as his new middle name in case he ever decides he wants to go by that. Trust me when I tell you that he will not ever want to go by his birth middle name.
We will be doing the same with Squirm’s name for the same reasons.
When we got approval to start using Squish’s new name, he had been going by his birth name for a year and a half. He knew his birth name, Squirm knew his birth name and on occasion, Squish even answered to his birth name. Never mind that all his teachers and classmates knew him by his birth name.
The Twins’ therapist suggested that one way to help with the transition would to be to get some personalized books with Squish’s new name to read with them – if I could personalize a book on adoption, so much the better!
And so the search began…
until I gave up.
Have YOU tried to find a foster-care-adoption-appropriate book that can be personalized??
Well, let me save you the trouble, because one found me!!!!!!!!!!
Two weeks before Squish’s adoption was finalized, I was contacted by www.PutMeInTheStory.com and asked if I would interested in reviewing one of their newest titles – I Wished for You: An Adoption Story by Marianne Richmond. This is actually one of my absolute FAVORITE adoption books, so you can imagine how excited I was to personalize one for Squish!!
I was actually dreading the personalization process because I’d already checked out a couple of personalized book websites… let’s just say I wasn’t impressed with the user-friendliness.
But the process at Put Me In The Story was EASY-PEASY!
Find the book you want to order and click on the “Personalize Your Book Now Button.”
The personalization frame pops up so you can enter the child’s name, who the book is from, and a dedication (the dedication was the hardest part of the process for me – I have a hard enough time with Twitter – how am I supposed to say something meaningful with only 100 characters??? But I guess the dedication shouldn’t be a book in itself, so maybe the limitation is a good thing).
This is also where you upload a photo for the dedication page – you can even crop or rotate the photo right in the frame!
But here’s the coolest part of the Put Me In The Story process – once you’ve entered the names and dedication and uploaded your photo,
YOU CAN PREVIEW THE BOOK —- WITH YOUR PERSONALIZATIONS!!!!
How freaking cool is that?!?! You can preview one or two pages at a time to make sure you like how the personalization looks and flows – before you commit to anything!!
I was so excited just from the previews that I was almost in tears. Then the book arrived on Forever Day Eve!
And it was more beautiful than I could have imagined.
*I received a copy of this book for review purposes. I was not financially compensated in any way and all opinions are my own.*