For as long as I can remember, my favorite scripture has been Philippians 4:13
I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.
It was kind of a mantra in the depths of my struggle with infertility. And continues to comfort me in the foster care circus.
But I really draw strength from music – primarily Christian music, as it turns out. I collect songs that speak to me. I just discovered a new one last night – it’s actually about the singers then-unborn child who had been diagnosed with a very serious heart defect. But it describes foster parenting exactly. As one fellow foster parent put it “over and over and over…………………..”
And then there’s this story about how a carrot, an egg and a coffee bean face the same adversity – boiling water – but each reacted differently.
- The carrot went in strong, hard and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak.
- The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior. But, after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened.
- The ground coffee bean was unique, however. After it was in the boiling water, it had changed the water.
When I was in the thick of the infertility fight, I always saw Infertility as The Giant in this song. I recently listened to it again with the additional “lens” of foster parenting. Oddly enough, Infertility is still The Giant. Foster Parenting is the Waves.