Tag Archive: Squirm

How Squirm Hit the 18-month Mark with a Thump

The Twins turned 18 months yesterday and I guess Squirm decided I didn’t make a big enough deal about it and decided to add a little excitement to the yesterday evening. Spoiler alert: other than a little sleep deprivation, everyone is okay 😉

About 7 pm last night, Squirm opted to get an early start on his Olympic Gymnast career and attempted a vault off my couch. Which ended with the back of his head colliding with my TILE floor. I didn’t see him fall, but I heard him land and knew that one was going to leave a mark. OUCH!

This is definitely not the first time someone has launched themselves head-first into the floor – I only take infants and toddlers after all. Following SOP, I pick him up to comfort him, ideally before he punctures anyone’s eardrums. And he pukes all over us both. CRAP! Now I have a head injury with vomiting. At bedtime. CRAP!
I go get myself ready to travel and maybe spend the night in the ER and consult with the pediatrician and some friends on which Pediatric ER is the best while SuperDad gets Squirm ready to travel and tries to convince Squish to go to bed even though he is clearly being left behind while Squirm gets an adventure.

Our pediatrician said I could choose between Florida Hospital’s Disney Pavilion and Arnold Palmer, because she wanted him seen somewhere that would have a Pediatric Neurosurgeon on duty.

So… long story short(ish?), he’s fine. They evaluated him and observed him for a couple of hours, during which he was dancing and climbing and flirting and trying to push every single button he saw…

For what it’s worth, I really liked the Disney Pavilion. The doc was great – I just love good pediatricians – you know, the ones that obviously love kids and have oodles more patience than me!

The Pediatric ER has a separate waiting room that was designed from the ground-up to be child-friendly. Squirm’s favorite features were a couple of cool light walls that kept him entertained for a bit, and I loved that the waiting room was fully enclosed so I could let him wander a little, without worrying that he would get into something or escape.

I was also impressed with the treatment room – in addition to a TV (that we didn’t use, but it was nice to have the option), they had a system that projected scenes onto the wall at the foot of the bed – we cycled between animated underwater, sky, and jungle scenes and videos of a South American beach and the Australian Outback – there was also a large recessed light above the bed that changed color to coordinate with the scene being projected on the wall – and you can even change the colors of the walls themselves. They also had a large en-suite restroom, big enough to take Squirm in with me, which was a very nice touch that I never would have considered.

How Squirm Hit the 18-month Mark with a Thump

The Twins turned 18 months yesterday and I guess Squirm decided I didn't make a big enough deal about it and decided to add a little excitement to the yesterday evening. Spoiler alert: other than a little sleep deprivation, everyone is okay 😉

About 7 pm last night, Squirm opted to get an early start on his Olympic Gymnast career and attempted a vault off my couch. Which ended with the back of his head colliding with my TILE floor. I didn't see him fall, but I heard him land and knew that one was going to leave a mark. OUCH!

This is definitely not the first time someone has launched themselves head-first into the floor – I only take infants and toddlers after all. Following SOP, I pick him up to comfort him, ideally before he punctures anyone's eardrums. And he pukes all over us both. CRAP! Now I have a head injury with vomiting. At bedtime. CRAP!
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What I’m Most Thankful for This November

Obviously I’m thankful for SuperDad and my boys and my (new) church and my friends and my mentor and my job… and my health…

But what I’m MOST THANKFUL for? That my God knows better than me. That He loves me enough to ignore me. That He is benevolent enough and wise enough to disregard what I think and show me His will for my life – in all it’s magnificent abundant glory.

Yep, as clichéd as it is, I am most thankful this November for Unanswered Prayers.

The last few days I have been working on our Adoption Applications for Squirm and Squish. (Don’t get excited, this is just the next step in the process. We are still a long way from calling The Twins permanent members of the family.) Part of this step is another homestudy – this one for adoption, as opposed to foster care. I really can’t see the difference between the two, we have to answer almost the exact same questions we answered for our foster care homestudy. But I’m told it’s all required to adopt, so here we go again into the paperwork rabbit hole. In there interest of efficiency (and consistency, tbh), I tracked down my original licensure packet to see how we answered the in-depth background questions the first time. I had completely forgotten some of the questions asked.

Imagine that today is the day you are going to meet the child or children who will be placed in your home. Please describe this child: age, sex, personality, appearance, family background, siblings, etc.” I couldn’t help but laugh when I read our responses:

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A Crash Course on TPR (in our experience)

By popular demand: a crash course on the Termination of Parental Rights (TPR) process (disclaimer: this is based on our experience, your mileage may vary). For the vast, vast, vast majority of children that come into care, the initial goal is reunification with the parents. For a multitude of reasons, the goal may at some point change to TPR & Adoption. (Updated 11.27.14: now that we’ve done this a couple of times, I have more information.)

  • DCF or GAL requests a change of goal to TPR/Adoption
  • The judge asks the other attorneys (DCF, GAL and parents’ attorneys) their position on the change
  • The judge may order the change of goal. If not, continue current case plan; lather, rinse, repeat
  • If judge approves TPR/Adoption goal, an Advisory hearing is set for approximately 45 days later
  • At the Advisory hearing, if it’s not continued*, each bio parent has the following options:
    • Fail to show up for the hearing. In this case, their parental rights are terminated by default. This is considered an involuntary termination (this is a surprisingly popular option).
    • Show up and voluntarily surrender their child. This is a no-take-backs situation. The judge takes the time to make certain the parent knows what is happening and that they can’t change their mind later and hasn’t been promised anything, blah, blah, blah.
      • If a bio parent nos-shows the Advisory hearing or voluntarily surrenders, a Disposition hearing is set for 2-3 weeks later At this hearing the termination/surrender is “dispo’d” or finalized and and that bio parent has no further rights to the child. 
    • Show up and contest the termination. Then a date is set for TPR Pre-trial and TPR Hearing.
      • If they lose at the hearing, their parental rights are involuntarily terminated.
      • If they don’t show up for the hearing, their parental rights are involuntarily terminated.
      • If they no-show or lose the TPR trial, the case is typically “dispo’d” immediately.
  • After dispo, there is a 30-day appeal period for involuntary termination of parental rights
*Why might it be continued, you ask? I’m sure there are myriad reasons. The State of Florida prefers not to terminate the rights of one parent while leaving the other parent’s rights intact.

There are exceptions, when one parent presents a demonstrable threat to the child and the other parent lives out of state and is trying to get a homestudy done, is one example I’ve heard. But in the normal course of business, the State prefers to sever all parental rights at the same time. For this reason, if one parent surrenders, but the other wants a trial, the surrender will not be “dispo’d” until the second parent’s rights are terminated. Also for this reason, if the bio father has not been identified, the Advisory hearing can continued. – How many times can it be continued? I’ll have to get back to you…